Don’t Hate…. Educate
This day I have perfected your religion for you, completed My favour upon you and have chosen for you Islam as your religion- (Quran 5:3)
Part2- Can You Listen With Your Eyes?
Prophet Muhammad’s Communication Skills
By Sahar El-Nadi
In ancient Arabia, eloquence meant status. Arabic is a language rich in shades and shadows, and people competed to weave words with exquisite elegance and beautiful rhythm, skillfully shaping words into works of verbal art.
This is when Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was born. Although he was never taught to read and write, he had more linguistic skills than anyone.
These skills enabled him to transmit difficult concepts clearly, to all levels of audience, and in just a few words.
His wise sayings are called ‘Hadith’ (literally means ‘speech’ in Arabic) and they are collected in books and taught as timeless guidance to people around the world.
Yet when learning Hadith today, more attention is paid to the study of the exact words of the Prophet Muhammad, while overlooking an important fact which has to do with his use of many non-verbal communication skills to enhance the meanings of the words.
He had an exceptional ability to engage more of our senses than just our ears – even while we hear what he said hundreds of years ago.
Painting Mental Pictures With Words
When we read Hadith, we will notice that the words draw vivid pictures in our minds, with sights, sounds, smells, and feelings. At the same time, the narrators used descriptive words to give us a complete three-dimensional snapshot of each event.
In this way we could actually ‘see’ in our minds-eye the complete surrounding context, in addition to exactly what the Prophet did with the rest of his body while he spoke.
Instinctively, narrators used their special skill with words to share with us what they saw, heard, felt, imagined and understood – which is how they had actually learnt and changed.
There is a precious lesson for us here: When learning from a unique teacher with exceptional communication skills, his audience have to also be trained to use all their senses to receive meanings and learn lessons.
That is why their behavior was transformed in just a few years to build a brilliant civilization. Perhaps we too need to do the same today, It’s not enough to mechanically memorize and recite his sayings. What’s more important is to open up to the positive change the Prophet’s words cause in hearts and minds, and to follow through with practice.
Non-Verbal Cues Blow Your Cover
Communication is about delivering a message to the audience, with maximum accuracy and minimum confusion. Taking in to account the correct interpretation of their response, which reflects their perception of the meaning. These basics are essential for exchanging ideas and feelings with others effectively.
Modern research states that successful communicators possess the ability to engage all the senses of their audiences, through using two types of skills in accurate measure.
The first type is the verbal skills, or the spoken language in writing and speech. The second type is the non-verbal skills, which express the ‘unspoken’ context of the words to give them their true meaning, including facial expressions, body language, and vocal qualities such as volume, pitch and speed.
Ironically, successful delivery of a message relies more on non-verbal skills which transmit at least 70% of the meaning, while only 30% is transmitted through words.
Moreover, when the spoken and the unspoken messages contradict, the human brain is programmed to believe the non-verbal cues. For example: if someone says to us: “how nice to see you” but says so with sarcasm, we subconsciously receive the sarcasm and not the seemingly courteous greeting.
The Art of Eloquent Silence
There are training courses to teach us how to interpret people’s unconscious gestures, and at the same time consciously send positive non-verbal signals to others to enhance mutual understanding and encourage effective communication.
Being the exceptional communicator he was, the Prophet Muhammad paid special attention to sending clear and consistent non-verbal messages all the time, even while he was completely silent.
He knew that most of his tradition will be transmitted verbally, so he spoke concisely and clearly, repeated every important idea 3 times. But in parallel, he used very strong vocal and gesture cues consistent with his words to enhance people’s memorization of what he said to be able to repeat it to others.
His posture was always straight and alert to reflect confidence and strength, he walked briskly to reflect purposefulness, yet his face was always relaxed and peaceful with a poised smile inviting contact and trust.
He gave people his full attention by turning towards them with his whole torso not just his head, which made them feel important and appreciated.
When he got angry, he simply looked away from the person or the event to indicate his disapproval without saying a word.
In a gathering, he sat anywhere not in the center indicating equality, and he always allowed direct contact indicating approachability.
He never looked anyone too long in the face, and used his full palm to point at people instead of pointing his finger to avoid embarrassing them.
Nonetheless, we find the Quran gently rectifying his non-verbal communication in a special situation, sending us a precious lesson:
Even Gestures Count
The Prophet was talking to a group of notable tribal leaders attempting to win them over, when a blind man, named Abdullah ibn Umm Maktoum, came to him with some questions.
Trying to focus all his attention on the potential allies, the Prophet frowned in concentration and looked away from Abdullah and towards his audience. The blind man couldn’t see his frowning face or his annoyed body language, yet God blamed His Messenger for transmitting a negative non-verbal message.
[He frowned and turned away, Because there came to him the blind man.](`Abasa80:1-2)
We can’t transmit an emotion sincerely unless our body language is consistent with the words. Try it yourself: face a mirror and try to sound cheerful saying ‘good morning’ while your face is frowning. You can’t. If you don’t want to hear a frown in your voice, you must actually smile so that your voice would sound friendly.
Now, can you imagine how the Prophet’s voice would’ve sounded if he had spoken to his blind companion while he was frowning and turned away? The blind man would’ve certainly heard the annoyance in the Prophet’s voice, which would generate negative feelings, and create a barrier to effective communication with a sincere friend.
In addition, the group of leaders the Prophet was focused on were right there watching the interaction; if The Prophet had talked negatively to the blind man, this would have been an indirect negative message to them. This would have discouraged them from forming positive ideas about Islam, which would in result defeat the purpose of the whole communication process.
Because of the deep insights gained from this incident, the Prophet always smiled at that blind man saying, “Welcome to whom my Lord has blamed me” (Al-Qurtubi)
Later, the Prophet’s wife Aisha while talking about another woman, pointed with her hand to indicate that she was too short. The Prophet told her, “You have said a word that if mixed with the water of the sea it would spoil it!” (Abu Dawud )He called her simple gesture a ‘word’ and warned her it was so destructive that it could spoil a sea.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
|A smile and an open posture are well understood ‘words’ in a universal code.|
How often do we use facial expressions or gestures publicly in a sarcastic or mocking way, mindless of their destructive effects on our image and on our communication with others?
These stories teach us to mind our body language as much as our verbal language, above all because God is watching, also because others may evaluate us. and even our entire nations or cultures based on our public conduct.
At any given moment, imagine that someone may be evaluating how you talk to your spouse in a shopping mall, how you treat an elderly on the train, or what you do with your friends in the street.
If you want to be perceived as a nice person, do it all the time, with all your being, even when you think no one is looking. A smile and an open posture are well understood ‘words’ in a universal code.
So even if you don’t speak a word of someone’s language, remember that is only 30 percent of your tools, you still have much more to make sure they ‘listen’ to your friendly thoughts with their eyes.
The Prophet Muhammad was sent to a nation of brilliant orators, people whose main interest was words, yet he added a deeper dimension to eloquent words, which is eloquent silence, where refined actions do the talking.
Sahar Elnadi Holds a BA in ancient history and culture from Cairo University. Worked in many people-related careers in parallel, including presenting public events and TV programs; instructing training courses in communication, thinking skills and cross cultural issues.Long experience in the dynamics of multinational e-communities on the internet, with award winning online projects since 1998.
Consultant for ReadingIslam.com, answering questions about Islamic culture in English. Currently focusing on utilizing interpersonal skills to better represent local culture in various media channels. In 2006, created and launchedwww.zero-net.net; a creative cross-cultural communication project following the Danish cartoons crisis to prove that proper communication can prevent future clashes.
For he who hates you, he will be cut off
For he who hates you (O Muhammad [sal-Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam]), he will be cut off (from posterity and every good thing in this world and in the Hereafter).[108:03]
Narrated Anas [radhi-yAllahu ‘anhu]: The Prophet [sal-Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam] said,
“None of you will have Faith till he loves me more than his father, his children and all mankind.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari, 1/15 (O.P.14)]
Ref.: The Noble Qur.aan 108:03
VERY VERY FRUITFULY ALL MUSLIMS.
Do You know what will be the first thing that will be asked from this Ummah
Do you know what was the first prayer offered By Mohammad S.A.W It Was Duhr Prayer
Do you know ! who will be the first one entering Jannah
He will be Prophet Mohammad S.A.W
?Do you know who will be the first Ummah Entering Jannah
It will be Ummah of Prophet Mohammad S.A.W
?Do you know who is the first one who say Azan in heaven
He was Jibrail A.S
Do you know who first predicted the hours to be twelve
It was Nooh A.S, who did this when he was on boat to find out the times for prayers
Do you know who was the first person who said SUBHANA RABBI AL AALA, he was Israfeel A.S.
Do you know what was the first ayah revealed from Al-Quran
It was Surah Al-Alaq Ayah 1
Do you know who ! first wrote with pen
He was Hazrat Idrees A.S
Do you know what was the last ayah revelaed from Al-Quran
It was Al-Baqara Ayah 281
?Do you know what was the fist verse revealed from Torah
It was Bismillah hir rahman nir raheem
Do you know what is the MO St Supreme Ayah in Quran
Its Ayat Al-Kursi ——-Al-Baqara Ayah 255
Whoever said SUBHAN ALLAHi WA BIHAMDIHI hundred 100 times,
All his sins will be forgiven even if they are as much as foam of the sea.
WHoever will say LAILLAHA ILLA ANTA SUBHANAKA INNI KUNTU MINAZ ZALIMEEN,
Whenever ! he is in sorrow, Allah will take away all his sorrows Just like He saved YUNUS A.S, when he was inside the fish.
The Prophet (saw)said, “(There are) two words which are dear to the Beneficent (Allah) and very light (easy) for the tongue (to say), but very heavy in weight in the balance.
They are: Subhan Allah WA-bi hamdihi’ and ‘Subhan Allah Al-‘Azim.”
Ibn-al Qayyaum R.A said: the things that make the body sick are:
Too much! talking,
Too much sleeping,
Too much Eating
Jabir reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, ‘Whoever says Subhan-Allah- al-Azim WA bihamdihi (Glorified is Allah, the Great, with all praise due to Him), will have a palm tree planted for him in paradise.”
Reported by Tirmidhi
Juwairiyah bint Al-Harith (May Allah be pleased with her) reported, the Mother of the Believers: The Prophet (PBUH) came out from my apartment in the Morning as I was busy in performing the dawn prayer. He came back in the forenoon and found me sitting there. The Prophet (PBUH) said, “Are you still in the same position as I left you.” I replied in the affirmative.
Thereupon the Prophet said,”I recited four words three times after I had left you. If these are to be weighed against all you have recited since morning, these will be heavier. These are:
Subhan-Allahi wa bihamdihi, `adada khalqihi, wa rida nafsihi, wa zinatah `arshihi, wa midada kalimatihi
This is most common among us…… most of us talk during Azaan..
The Holy Prophet (SAW) said, Stop doing everything during the Azaan, even reading the Quran, the person who talks during the Azaan will not be able to say the Kalima Shahadat on his/her death bed….
Please pass this message to Muslims…
READ THIS DUAA FOR BETTER LIFE
Allahumma- inni- ala-Zik-rika- wa Shuk-rika wa husni-ibadatika.
A very powerful Dua’a has been sent to you. Send this to as many as you can.
Prophet Mohammad said this 1400 yrs ago!
Take a look…. Now this is told 1400yrs ago!!!!
* Camels will no longer be used as a means of transport;
* People will ride on saddles that aren’t saddles (cars?)
* The distance on earth will become short;
* Horses will not be used in wars;
* Muslims will defeat the Byzantines which will end with the conquest of Constantinople Istanbul);
* The Jews will gather again to live in Bilad Canaan;
* Very tall buildings will be built;
* The disappearance of knowledge and the appearance of ignorance, with much killing;
* Adultery will become widespread, and the drinking of wine will become common;
* The number of men will decrease and the number of women will increase until there are 50 women to be looked after by one man.
* Islam will become worn out like clothes are, until no one will know what fasting, prayer, charity and rituals are;
* Allah will send a disease to fornicators that will have no cure (Aids?);
* People will begin to believe in the stars and reject AL QADAR (THE DIVINE DECREE OF DESTINY);
* Men will pass by people’s graves and say: ‘Would that I were in his place’; (large amount of sucidal deaths?)
* The Euphrates will uncover a mountain of gold for which people will fight over (the river of Alfurat that lies near Syria );
* Two large groups of people will fight one another, and there will be many casualties; they will both be following the same rel igion World War II?);
* Approximately 30 DAJJALS will appear, each one claiming to be the messenger of ALLAH;
* Earthquakes will increase; * Time will pass quickly;
* Afflictions will appear;
* Killing will increase;
* Wealth will increase;
- Women will be wearing clothes but not wearing clothes * THE PROPHET (saw) SAID: ‘IF MY UMMAH BEARS 15 TRAITS (QUALITIES), TRIBULATION WILL FOLLOW IT.’ (DAY OF JUDGEMENT) SOMEONE ASKED,’WHAT ARE THEY O MESSENGER OF ALLAH?’ HE (saw) SAID: *When any gain is shared out only among the rich, with no benefit to the poor;
- * When a trust becomes a means of making profit;
- *When paying ZAKKAT becomes a burden;
- * When voices are raised in the mosque;
- * When the leader of a people is the worst of them; when people treat a man with respect because what he may do;
- * When much wine is drunk; red wind or the earth swallow them, or to be transformed into animals.’
- * ‘IMRAN IBN HUSA YN SAID: ‘THE PROPHET (AS) SAID, ‘SOME PEOPLE OF THIS UMMAH WILL BE SWALLOWED BY THE EARTH, TRANSFORMED INTO ANIMALS, AND SOME WILL BE BOMBARDED WITH STONES’. ONE OF THE MUSLIMS ASKED, WHEN WILL THAT BE O MESSENGER Of ALLAH?’ HE SAID, ‘WHEN SINGERS AND MUSICAL INSTRUMENTS WILL BECOME POPULAR, AND MUCH
- WINE IS DRUNK.” THE GREATER SIGNS OF THE HOUR The Quran will disappear in one night, even from the people’s hearts, and no Ayah will be left on earth. (Some groups of old people will be left who will say: ‘We heard of fathers’ saying ‘LAILLAHA ILLA ALLAH’ so we repeat it); * The appearance of the MAHDI;
- * The appearance of the DAJJAL (Anti Christ); * The appearance of Ya’juj an d Ma’juj (biblical Gog and Magog);
- * Isa (Jesus) will come during the time of Dajjal;
- * The rising of the sun from the west;
- * The destruction of the Ka’ba and the recovery of its treasures;
- * The smoke. Just remember-Allah is watching you. Prayer Wheel, Let’s see the devil stop this one! Here’s what the wheel is all about. When you receive this, say a prayer for the person that sent it to you…. There are no costs, but wonderful rewards….Let’s continue praying for one another.
- As we look at this article we realize how true the Messenger (P.B.U.H) was these signs were prophesized 1400 years ago!!!
1- Don’t let thismessage sit here.
2- Forward this message to all you know and by the grace of Allah swt you will be blessed for each & every Dua by millions of people around the globe you forward this e-mail to.
THIS WILL BE AN ETERNAL REWARD EVEN AFTER YOU DIE THE MAIL WILL SOMEHOW BE CIRCULATED AND YOU WILL KEEP GETTING THE HASANAH FROM
Awaaz toooo do
Pal pal mera pyaar poukare
Sab dastoor hain jhuthye
Jhuthi hain sab rasmain
Yeh manzoor hay kab dunia ko
Mil k raheen apas main
Ab a bhi jao jahan hoo
Tarpane wale kahan hoo
Dil ka dard koy na jane
Sab hain yahan begane
Tum bin koun sune humrahi
Dard bhare afsane
Ab a bhi jao jahan ho
Nowadays, claims are made that man is advancing very rapidly and will soon reach the peak of perfection. Man’s advancements in technology, science, chemistry, discoveries, etc. has created a new dimension in this world. His speed of advancement is reaching the once untouchable frontiers of the Universe. His scientific advancement in technology is accomplishing that work in minutes which the physical hand could not do a hundred of years ago. The feet required years of laborious effort to cover distances while modern technology covers that in hours. In this scientific era, a train, a car and an aeroplane can traverse the globe in a matter of hours while in the past this was not physically possible. What the physical ears and eyes could hear was limited but today modern technology can hear and see objects millions of miles away. Televisions, telephones, telescopes, and wireless communications can capture images and sounds in a split of a second from the far and wide corners of the universe while some years ago this was regarded as impossible.
People generally regarded this as an incredible achievement for mankind. But if one carefully ponders over these special abilities and knowledge on which the West relies for its survival, then certainly, one will reach the conclusion that day by day man is not progressing, but in fact regressing. It is possible that one may refute this assumption by presenting proofs of man’s progress to the contribution of humanity. However, man’s special skills have also led to his destruction e.g. numerous types of drugs are researched and manufactured to protect and enhance these special skills of man. But these proofs are actually delusions which can be understood with a little thought.
The increase in numbers of an entity does not prove the increase of advancement or progress of that entity. A correct conclusion can be achieved after pondering carefully at all factors. For example, 200 years ago in a community of 100 thousand people, within 10 years it was found that there was an increase of 10 thousand perfectly healthy and strong people amongst them. On the contrary, nowadays there is not such a high rate of increase of healthy people in communities. In fact in a community of 100 thousand people, one will find the rate of a maximum of 20 or 25 thousand and that too, most of them are weak, sick and disable. Now would you sincerely classify this as an increase or decrease? Excessive sickness, weak physique and decrease in productivity abnormal to natural growth rate clearly proves that the productive sperm or special powers of the humankind were not only hindered in progress but also not protected as it should have been, otherwise such a situation would not have prevailed.
If a single seed is planted in the correct season and environment and cared for strictly according to the rules of cultivation, then there is a great hope of a healthy harvest. But if the same seed is unsystematically cultivated certainly there will be no seedling, crop or harvest. If by chance such seeds do sprout, then the crop will not be healthy and if by chance the crop is healthy and produces fruit, then this fruit will certainly not be healthy with a high rating quality.
The same applies to the seed of the human (sperm) when it is haphazardly thrown on infertile or polluted places or illegitimately planted. The end result of such transaction will indeed produce disastrous and non-progressive societies. There is no shortage of doctors and medications, yet there is a huge population of sick people seeking medical assistance. The situation of treatment and medication is similar to patching a hole with an old feeble piece of cloth to hide the hole or constantly topping oil in an engine with blown rings and bearings just to carry on moving. It is therefore most important on all sensible persons for the sake of salvation and protecting the real essence of man to formulate methods of correctly utilizing its special powers blessed by its Creator, ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala.
وَاحْفَظْ مَنِيُكَ مَااسْتَطَعْتَ فَاِنَّهُ ؛ مَاءُ الحَيوةِ يراقَ فيِ الاَرْحَامِ
Protect your sperm as much as you can for verily,
It is the water of life stored in the delicate womb.
But as far as the concept of protecting and serving the purity of the human race is concerned, this is not possible by medication or instruments. In fact, in these disturbed times, the lives of people become senseless and bewildered when they correctly or incorrectly use their special powers. Thus, the theory of “Adolescence is Madness” comes to mind. The earnest contribution of an intelligent physician is that he, on the one hand, wisely treats his patients professionally and, on the other hand, inculcates moral ethics in the minds of the youth who are entangled in the stormy oceans of lust and temptations of adolescence. Always build a protective wall around a spring to contain and protect it so that everyone can benefit from its nourishment otherwise its water will go to waste. No matter how severe the storm of the ocean, a well trained pilot will steer his ship safely through it. If a river is controlled and channeled correctly, it will irrigate and nourish the lands with new life, but an unprotected river in a storm will burst its banks and destroy everything in its path like a wild animal on rampage.
In this modern age many Ministries (e.g. Health) are researching and formulating methods and chemicals to combat diseases and spending millions to achieve this. Every municipality is loaded with files of problems and thousand of workers and specialist are employed to solve them. But, is there any ministry or municipality of any country in the world that is concerned about the security and correct usage of the essence of man and the protection of its misuses? Are any governments of the worlds concerned about the contamination and sickness that are spreading because of the misuse of this divinely misused essence? Which country in the world is struggling to rectify or stop the corruption of abuse of the core of humankind that is destroying nations and threatening its future generations?
But alas! The think-tanks of governments are totally ignorant or careless of this important reality. A true and sincere person will be concerned and cry tears of blood when he sees the destruction of a nation and its youth. The reader will find the drops of these same tears of blood scattered in the contents of this book and this is my first step in the service of the present day youth and its future generation. The pages of this book are no illusions or fantasies nor are they theory or medical prescriptions or speculations of lawmakers and theories of scientists. They are sincere words from the depths of the heart soaked in pain and concern for the youth of the world.
May my words through the Lord of the Universe have a profound impact on the hearts of humankind. Oh Merciful ALLAH! Let these words be source of guidance for all those who are astray from Your righteous path… Aameen!!